1. 22 July 2008

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    brianvan

    No tears.

    Women who cry at night eating ice cream with a soup spoon not because guys won’t talk to them in general, but because they can’t get the top 5% of men in looks/money/charm to admire and emotionally connect with them. - brianvan

    My boyfriend is 9 years my senior. He is a college student who is also the primary custodian for a four year old daughter. Some might call him charming, but most wouldn’t, because he says exactly what he is thinking and won’t apologize for it. He is wildly attractive in my humble opinion, but I don’t know if that is because he is attractive in the traditional sense of the word or because he is attractive to me.

    Why does he make feel like a teenager with a crush?

    1. He does not feel the need to compete with me, at all. He finds my dedication to my career admirable, and makes enormous allowances in our relationship so that I can be successful. He does not necessarily relate to my goals, but he thinks that anything that is important to me should be prioritized. He is not rich, has no plans to be, will never support me financially, and I am perfectly content with that.
    2. He is honest to a fault, and therefore I know that he will never use platitudes with me, rather than have a real conversation. I am redefining my understanding of “charming” with this refreshing change of pace. While this isn’t traditional, he does have other charms that I find more common in a man who is older than I am. He is open, relaxed, he has his priorities in order. Even if they are not my priorities, I respect them… mostly because he doesn’t need my respect in order to feel comfortable.
    3. He is not stuck on his looks, or mine. I’m never too self conscious in the morning to just hang out in bed and relax rather than running to the bathroom to make sure I look disheveled, but attractive. We find each other irresistible anyway. This is another benefit I’ve found in dating someone who is slightly senior to me. They do not have to project an image in order to feel confident, and they do not expect me to project one either.

    Is dating an older man beneficial for me? Yes. But not because I am one of the penniless, shallow hookers that women in their twenties are portrayed as.

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  1. aja reblogged this from nudawn and added:
    Women who cry at night eating ice cream with a soup spoon not because guys won’t talk
  2. guardianofgimcracks reblogged this from brianvan and added:
    Yeah that would be me…I am...compromise…I will not...anyone...
  3. scottnot reblogged this from peterwknox
  4. brianvan reblogged this from peterwknox and added:
    Hey, I understand your frustration, even if it was misguidedly vented. The thing is,
  5. onefootinthegrave reblogged this from brianvan
  6. peterwknox reblogged this from brianvan and added:
    blaming women. There’s no easier way...guarentee going home alone than
  7. lilyna reblogged this from brianvan and added:
    tease-girls in slutty costumes that give men
  8. asie reblogged this from brianvan
  9. antikris reblogged this from nudawn and added:
    (well I sure aint crying over the fat fuck living in his mom’s basement, roll playing with his ‘friends’. This just...
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